Last week, I shared about how Chris and I run to pass the time when we are in the pool waiting to build our family. On Saturday, we ran our 5th 1/2 marathon together!
It was a very long 13.1 miles for me. It also thunderstormed: The type of thunderstorm with thunder that vibrates the ground and lightning. When the sky opened up, we were in a very tree lined area of the run. Where is the best place to be in a thunderstorm? Under a tree? No! Ironically, the very first 1/2 marathon we ran in 2013 we were lucky enough to run 12 of the 13.1 in a thunderstorm which also had hail. Rain soaked and all with one step at a time, we made it to the finish line. (The one step at a time deal was me. Chris had a great race. I was grinding my teeth the entire way which I didn’t think was possible.)
A runner must run with dreams in his heart.
Everyone hoping to build their family through adoption has one thing on their mind and it is typically the first question I hear asked ‘How long is the wait?’
It can be long. It can be painful. It will probably be the least fun you will ever have: The constant email checking, website updating, and unintentional clock watching waiting for an expectant woman to potentially consider you as a parent for her child.
Basically, it is zero fun.
Here is what Chris and I do to cope with the wait.
- Start a new project.
- Plan small weekend or day trips.
- Shopping. I have never been to a sale that didn’t make me smile. 🙂
- Start a new hobby. Chris started brewing beer when we were waiting for our first son’s birth parents to find us.
- Run a marathon or 6. We run. We didn’t run marathons until after we started our adoption journey. It helps. You can control the number of miles you run: When there is so much you can not control while waiting for what seems impossible. Run away or in circles literally. You will sleep better.
If you also like running or don’t like running and want to see us run, come to the Dexter to Ann Arbor Half Marathon June 5th. We are running to raise awareness for birth mothers everywhere and open adoption.