What is Open Adoption? And What is it Like?


Open adoption is a type of adoption in which birth and adoptive families have some form of initial and/or ongoing contact. Contact may begin with a meeting between an expectant mother and potential adoptive parents. Sometimes, an expectant parent may choose the adoptive family based on such a meeting or other communication. After placement, birth mothers and/or fathers and members of their extended families may interact in various ways with the adoptive parents, as well as with the adopted child or youth.

Communication may happen through letters, emails, social media exchanges, telephone calls, or visits. While some families may exchange brief notes and photos, others may spend more time together and celebrate birthdays or holidays together. The type and frequency of contact will be decided by the people involved and can range from several times a month to every few years. Contact often changes as a child ages or as family members’ needs and wishes change.

Most domestic adoption these days have some degree of openness. (more information on types of adoption)

Michelle and her family are hoping to grow again through adoption. Below is her experience with open adoption.

Each relationship and each adoption is different.

 

Our adoption is open, but to this point we haven’t had much of a relationship with our son’s birth mother.  Our son was an immediate placement and we met his mother briefly in the hospital room.  In the hospital we riddled each other with questions and exchanged contact information. We had one lunch meeting before the adoption was finalized, but otherwise we have communicated through emailed updates.  Her responses have been sporadic, which could be for any number of reasons.  We don’t judge that or make assumptions.  We have made sure to make it known that the door is always open for contact and communication.

 

It is not about me, my husband or even the wonderful mother who placed with us…. it is about our son and whatever is best for him.  To me that is our job, to support and empower him to grow into the man he wants to be.

To learn more about Michelle and her family click here.


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